I had a strange day today. It was one of those days. When you feel that it’s not really your day, no matter how hard you try. Did you ever had a day like this? That’s ok, I guess. To feel this way. Even when you decided in the morning that you will be happy the whole day long.
You read all those books, listen to all audio tapes and you try really hard to change your life. You are at the beginning of a journey, a journey of change, of acceptance and gratitude. No one said it will be easy. You will have days like that. When you feel tired. Take a small break. Make a revision about all those things what you have achieved since the beginning of your journey. If you have the feeling that you are stuck don’t be afraid to ask advice and guidance.
Let me tell you about this: it takes a lot of courage to ask help when you feel that you need it. If you really want to succeed, and to change your life don’t stop on your way. Have the courage to stand in front of someone with more knowledge, more expertise than you and ask for help, ask for advice.
I don’t know about you, but I was terrified at my first meeting (which eventually had been postponed). My heart was racing fast, my palms sweating and I had the feeling that I forgot even what I knew. What a disaster it was. Well, that can be a really embarrassing moment, especially when you decided that you want a career as a speaker, you know, to speak in the front of a crowd. And you feel lost in front of a single person. But that’s all right. I have made mistakes. I have learned how to do better, how to be better next time. How to walk, talk and behave the next time. Like this, trying your limits, facing your fears you will win. You will move forward. Face your fears. It takes a hell of a lot of courage. The first time is the hardest. For me it was. But I am prepared for the next one. Are you? Are you ready to face your fears? Are you ready to move one step forward toward your goal?
Be determined to succeed. Have the courage to ask help from the best. Learn from them, never accept rejection, try over and over again, move forward, accept constructive criticism and improve yourself. That’s the way how you will succeed.
Sir Henry Royce once said: “Take the best that exists and make it better”.
So, let’s just follow the advice. And we will all succeed. As everybody deserves success, appreciation, happiness and wealth.
Now, you see, motivational speakers, influencers on social media, authors, psychologists, spiritual leaders and successful entrepreneurs are out there (many of them), trying to “help” you to be successful, showing you the way, telling you how and what to do in order to be healthy, wealthy and happy.
But the reality is, that your life only depends on YOU. It only depends on you if you will be successful or not. It all depends on what YOU WANT.
I know exactly what I want! Do you know?
I start now all over my life, again, as now I know EXACTLY what I want, I know where I want to be and I realized that it only depends on me if I will get there or not. I decided to not let anyone to bring me down again, don’t let anyone to make me feel insecure in what I am doing. If my dream is big? Yes, it is. And you should DREAM big as well, nothing it’s impossible. The only one who can limit your possibilities is YOU!
It is in your power to change your life and to live the life you always wanted, by changing your attitude.
In my life there have been many stages, from being homeless on the streets of Budapest, selling all I have to get a hotel room and wash my cloth, to look clean and decent and to get a job. I have been working 16 hours a day for many years, as I needed the money for food, rent and clothing. I was desperate, sad and mad on the world, on my family, on my friends. I was mad even on myself, how can I be so stupid. Later on, when in London, I was renting out cheap, disastrous looking rooms with no heating and dirty matrasses for horrible prices, as I needed the money. The money was not enough, I hated what I was doing and I was unhappy. I knew that I have to change my life. But I had the same wrong attitude toward success, toward life. I used to complain about everything, about how miserable I feel, nothing worked out. I even started my own cleaning business. I failed of course. Again. Because I didn’t know what I was doing. I was doing all wrong.
I was only dreaming about success, about financial freedom, about wealth and happiness, expensive holidays and sunny places. I knew that I want more. I know that I deserve more. YOU deserve more, you deserve the best as well!
I realized that I have to improve myself, I need to gain more knowledge, I need more confidence and good relationships if I want to succeed. I have started college, I performed quite well. And I loved every minute of it. Then I have started to study at the University. But again, I realized that I want something more. Something better. You see, I have made the same mistake like many of you. You climb a mountain, you put effort and hard work in everything you do and when you reach the top, looking around, you realize that the view it’s ok, but it’s still not what you want. So, I have learned another lesson. YOU HAVE TO KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT AND WHAT YOU WANT TO ACHIEVE! You have to know exactly what your goals are.
I wanted more than that. I wanted something more than a qualification or a degree.
And finally I reached that point in my life when I knew exactly what I want!
Most of the people, including myself a couple of months ago, don’t know how to prioritize, and how to set goals. Long term goals. For yourself. Not for anyone else. No one cares about you, no one cares about your problem, about your life. Everybody is too busy with their own life, their own problems, own path.
Finally I knew exactly what I want. But there was a problem. I was afraid. But you know what? I was wrong. Afraid of what? Of failure? Really? I have failed so many times in my life, I have started everything all over again in my life so many times. So, I realized, that there is nothing to be afraid of. It was in my mind. The fear of failure. Practically I had nothing to lose, so why I am afraid of?
So, now, I take everything from the scratch and with the strong believe that this time I will succeed, with a changed attitude I have started my life again. I can, and you can, build up the life you always wanted, it is a matter of decision making, changed attitude toward problems and obstacles.
One might say if you were born poor you will be poor your whole life and if you were born rich you will be rich your whole life. But I would say, that with a changed attitude toward your life, success, money, happiness, wealth, you are able to change your life. It will be easy? I never said that. But it’s not impossible.
Start to live your dream, make every day a small step to reach your goal, never give up, never look back and never be afraid. My mentors are people I have never meet in person and probably I will never meet them. But that’s ok, as I can learn a lot from them. Choose a mentor, chose a person you admire and do what he/she had done to be successful. Prove wrong all those who don’t believe in you, prove wrong all those who said that you can’t make it. Yes, you can!
People have a busy life. People are selfish, preoccupied only with themselves, people don’t want to listen to your stories, they are not interested in your dreams and what you want, people are interested in themselves, all what they want is someone to listen to them, to listen to their stories, about their dreams and accomplishments.
This is another golden rule what you should apply, you should implement in your life. Be a good listener. Motivators, leaders and successful people are good listeners. Listen with all your heart, pay all your attention to the person who is talking to you. If you are sincerely interested in his saying, you listen to the story what is told to you and you give your full attention, I am telling you, you already won a friend, a business partner, someone who will offer their help to you, without you even ask for it. People love to talk about themselves, their needs. Be a good listener and you will win friends. Having friends, maintaining good relationships with everybody is one of the keys to success. Don’t criticize, as everybody wants to feel important, to feel appreciated. Listen to their sayings, appreciate them. Listening to their stories and showing sincere appreciation can change one’s life, and yours as well.
Yesterday it’s gone. Live your PRESENT, build your FUTURE.
That’s true. Yesterday it’s gone. Let it go, it’s past and you don’t live in the past. Be here, be present, live for today and live for your future. For a better future then your past was. If you always keep looking back on your past you will never move forward toward your goals, toward your future. You only live once and live your life now.
Be open to new opportunities, be open to change, be confident in your ability to achieve. Yes, probably you had failures, probably you had bad days or even months, years in your life, but make the decision to let go everything what happened there. That was yesterday, you don’t live there anymore. You are limited by nothing, only by yourself. Don’t limit yourself, believe and you will succeed. Change your way of thinking, think differently than yesterday, do good and good things will come to you. Train your mind to think positive, you are free to move your life forward. You are the director, you are the creator of your life. It only depends on you. Yesterday it’s gone, no matter what happened there, you can succeed and you can live the life you always wanted. Work hard, take action, move step by step forward. There is nothing to fear, you are unstoppable if you are able to change then way of your thinking. You deserve happiness, wealth and health, You will achieve great things through small steps.
I have started my website exactly 10 days ago. With slow steps I move forward. Tell me, what have you done in the past 10 days to get closer to your goals? Come on, let’s make it together. It will be difficult, probably, but not impossible.
I am aware that many of the motivational speakers are happy, famous, rich and successful. They reached their goals through hard work, motivation, self-development and obviously they love what they do. It is only a matter of a good decision making. If you decide, really decide that you will follow your dream and you will live the life that you always wanted, if you believe in yourself and in God, if you are motivated enough and willing not to stop at the first obstacle, I KNOW that you can make it as well. I KNOW that I can make it as well.
I am not rich, and I am not famous, but I am happy and in this very moment I know exactly what I want. I know exactly where I want to be and what I want to do in the future. Do You know? Did You already find your passion? Do you know where you want to be? Set your goals and start working on them. I do the same J
I will not tell you that is going to be easy. It won’t be. But it’s a beautiful journey, we can learn from each other. Learning some simple habits and rules, will take you closer to your dream. And smile, always smile. Remember, that one sincere smile is more powerful than thousands words J. Wake up every morning with a smile on your face and positive thoughts in your mind and your day will be beautiful. I won’t lie to you. There will be obstacles. But it’s only up to you how your day will be, how your week will be. Don’t let others judge you, don’t let others to bring you down. Stay strong and devoted to your dream.
Follow your heart, will lead your way, follow your passion and you will find joy and happiness in everything you do. Do good things every day, and good things will come to you. Mind your thoughts, they are powerful. Be aware of the law of attraction. Yes, I know. You’ve heard this thousands of times. Me too. But the truth is, that it actually works. I was very sceptical regarding this, a couple of years ago. But things changed. And I do believe now in the law of attraction. So, mind your thoughts. Buddha once said:
“What you think, you become.
What you feel, you attract.
What you imagine, you create.”
Choose to love your life and appreciate everything what you have. And YOU will succeed.
I was sitting on the tube this morning. London. The tube was very crowded, and as I had quite a long way to go, my thoughts were on my new project, my new blog, speaking to people and teach them from the stage, what can I do to make my dream come true. In my thoughts I went back a couple of years in my life, and I knew, I felt that I have so much to share to the world. I am a person who love to speak, I can speak hours and hours with people, never get bored, I can listen to their stories and learn from them, or I can share my life with them and teach them, hoping that they won’t do the same mistakes as I have done , when I was younger. Just look on the people on the tube: no one is talking to each other, everybody with their heads down on their phones, in a different world, away from reality. It is very sad, that people do not communicate anymore with each other, they send smileys on their phone, but when it comes to actually smile at someone, that looks fake, they forget how to express their feelings, how to say out loud what they think and what they want. Everybody on the tube seemed to be addicted to their phones. Sad, sad world. No interpersonal connection, no communication. But humans are social beings, we need to talk to each other, as we forget how to communicate in this digitalized world. I’m not saying we don’t have to develop ourselves, technology is changing fast and we have to keep up the pace, but I do believe that sometime we should slow down and take some time to give an honest smile to someone, to ask our friends and family members how they spent their day, ask them about their dreams and goals. Whenever we talk we only complain, we forget that life is beautiful and we only live once, that we should take every moment and live it in a way that makes us feel happy. An honest smile can have incredible power, whilst an emoji sent to someone to express your love, gratitude or whatever you feel, seems so impersonal. But, maybe I am wrong. Let me know if I am wrong. Tell me that we do not need to communicate with people in actual words and I will accept that. But I was born and I grow up in an era where if I liked a boy, it took me days until I was able to smile at him and say hello, flushed if, by some miracle the subject of my adoration smiled back at me and said hello. I grow up in a world when I had to say out loud : “I love you” , not send a red heart on my smart phone (sometimes I have the feeling that my phone is smarter than I am) and waiting for my dream guy to reply. I grow up in a world, where I had to meet my friends at the corner of the street to go out and I knew, when is getting dark it means that I have to go home, otherwise I will be in trouble. Yes, we have to follow the trends, technologies and all this new gadgets, apps, but I also believe that we should take the time to communicate with each other. Successful people take time to listen to others, they spend time with friends, associates, family members, they actually listen to stories of other people, as they can learn from them, successful people read every day, developing their interpersonal skills, they know that a real smile can make miracles and can make the most grumpy man in the world to smile back, they know that if they keep their head in their phones they won’t learn, they won’t be able to follow their dreams, as in order to look ahead you have to hold your head up, whilst looking on your smart phone, you always keep your head down. Never keep your head down. And don’t forget to smile, a smile can make miracles, will help you, the one who gives the smile and will make the day of then receiver as well.
Here we are again and I hope you have a great day today. On the second part of the habits of successful people I will talk about the following things, I hope will help you as well in your road to success:
Plan every day in advance
Planning your day a night before might seem strange or useless, but if you plan your day in advance it will drastically increase your productivity. You can use various methods when planning your day, can be calendars or to do lists, whatever is more comfortable to you. At the end of the day, write down the 5 most important things what you need to do the following day, in the top of the list the hardest, the most difficult one. Now, one of the most important thing is that you should take action the following day, as talking about productivity and getting things done, will not get you forward, so in order to be actually productive you have to do something for it, you have to take action. I realized that if I do not plan my day the night before, I am very busy the whole day, running here and there, doing this and that, in the evening I feel extremely tired, and actually annoyed, as practically I have done nothing worthy, I have done nothing what can bring me closer to my goal. So, plan your day ahead, wake up early in the morning, spend some time with yourself, with reading, exercise or anything what makes you feel happy and energized, and then start to work on your tasks, on your daily goals. In this way, when you finish to do the 5 most important task, you will realize that you still have a lot of time, you are extremely productive and you will feel accomplished. As every day can be different, my advice and what I do as well, plan just one day ahead at a time. So, plan your day in advance by choosing the best method that works for you J
Read every day
Dr. Seuss said once: “The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go.”
By reading books you will gain knowledge, your conversation will become better and better, you will be able to express yourself clearly and you will gain respect because of the way how you speak. Reading will build your skills, stimulate your brain, helps you to improve your vocabulary and also, will help you to develop a good self-image.
Today I want to share with you the following: researching the life and work of successful people, I have come to the conclusion that there are some habits what all of them they have and lead them on the road to success:
Build your self-concept
Every successful person has a strong sense of self-concept. Self-concept, the image what we have of ourselves, can be raised through positive thinking, what is a powerful tool and can lead on your way to success. One of the best motivational speakers said that the two most powerful words in English language are: I AM. So, repeating to yourself: I am a good person, I can do it, I am a good husband, I am a good father, I am a good mother, I am a good business man, will raise your self-concept. I know that sometimes it is very difficult to think positive, but not impossible. If you train your mind for positive thoughts, the first thing when you wake up in the morning will be a good memory, ay idea or anything positive, what will lead your way through the day. If you think different, you think positive, good things will start to happen to you. 🙂
If you know exactly what would you like to achieve in your life, set goals and write them down on a sheet of paper. A written goal is powerful. Learn to write down your ideas and step by step try to figure out how you can reach your goal. Try to find ways and methods to get closer to your goal every day. A couple of years ago, I started to practice and to train myself to write down my ideas, and in a very short time I have realized, that if I write down my goals, what I would like to achieve on a specific day, within a month or within a year, I became more productive in my work and I had also spare time what I can spend with my family. And here we reach number 3
If you adopt good time management techniques it means that you will simplify your day and you will get things done faster. But avoid procrastination, that’s your enemy, don’t forget that. 🙂
Wake up early (successful people always wake up early), do the most difficult task from your list first thing in the morning. Plan ahead your day the night before.