A different one


What I’m going to say today it is a little bit different.

Have you ever had the feeling that you are at the wrong place and the wrong time? What I have learned during the past few years is, that you should always listen to your feelings, your emotions regarding a certain person, situation or place.

I made a choice to follow my dream, my road and I am doing the best I can to reach the goal. But sometimes, it happens that what I thought to be a good idea, the right person, the perfect situation, when I found myself into it, it proved to be the wrong one. Or not the kind of situation in which I would like to be, not the one I want.

Couple of years ago, I was very anxious, I didn’t dare to step out from an unpleasant situation, or just leave if I knew that I was on the wrong place, being afraid of what others will think of me, being afraid of being rude, impolite, being afraid that people will judge me, I was consumed by it. So, I just simply stayed there, feeling miserable, bored, nervous, not in my best mood, trying to please others, smiling when I didn’t felt like I want to smile, shaking hands when I knew that I’m not with the right people.

But nowadays, I pay more attention to my feelings, my emotions. I know exactly what I want, who I want to be and where I want to go. I gave up trying to please everybody around me, as my mental wellbeing, “me” is more important.  The only thing that really matters ow is how I feel and what I think about myself.  There is nothing wrong in admitting that you have made a mistake and you walk away from something what is not for you, there is nothing wrong in listening to your heart, to your emotions. I consider that I am a very sociable and friendly person, I love to learn new things all the time, but one thing is for sure: I know that what I want to learn will bring me closer to my goal. I am not trying to be perfect, I am aware that I cannot be good in everything, I know now, that I don’t need to know everything. It is perfectly fine for me if I know those things what are necessary to bring me closer to who I want to be and where I want to be.

In the past, I always had the urge to justify myself, my actions, my emotions to others. But nowadays, I say like this: the only person I need to give explanation and in front of whom I  need to justify my decisions it’s me. Only me. You my dear friend, don’t be afraid to do what is the best for you, don’t think on what people will say or think about you. It’s they’re problem, not yours.  As long as you know deep down in your heart that you are doing the right thing for you, you avoid stress and anxiety, you don’t have to give explanation to anyone. You are the master of your thoughts, your feelings, you are the creator of your own life, not anybody else. So if you feel good, you have the feeling of happiness, joy and you feel the energy flowing inside you when you are in a certain situation, when you talk to someone, then you are on the right track. But when you have the feeling that is something wrong, that you don’t like it, you don’t wish to be there, it gives you nervousness, you are bored, then just simply walk away.  Don’t try to achieve what you think that other people think that you should achieve. This doesn’t mean that you should stop caring about other people! It means that you should stop caring about what they THINK of you.

I wish you All a great day.




Author: Cristina Konya

I am a believer. I have faith. I know that happiness comes from inside. I've changed and I enjoy the benefits of changing my mind set and changing my attitude. I am grateful every day for all that is already mine or it's on its way to me. Are you ready to change your life too? Get in touch with me by sending me an email to Cristina.konya@gmail.com and we will find out together if we are a good match and we can work together or what are the options. There is always a choice to make. Chose to live your life as you always wanted. Love, Cristina.

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